Everything electrical has delays, spikes and sparks related to voltage, current and coils in the circuit.
Some old stuff was very costly, very well made, and can resist some forms of abuse for a long time, or forever.
Most older expensive high end electrical stuff for milling machines was like that, at that time.
I would think the Maho relays are similar to that.
Overbuilt, robust, etc.
But they were almost certainly not expecting to be switched at 1 ms intervals or less via modern sw.
Since it´s a gearbox and the usage is likely to be very sporadic and sparse ..
I would very much prefer a robust enforced delay of some kind.
There could be inductive kicks, emf driven spikes, whatever, otherwise.
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My servo drives live and work for quite a long time on power-out, about 1 second as a tlar.
I think due to emf and caps and servo motor coils.
My wag is about 0.5 secs delay would be a good start.
Comparing it to VFDs and other std power electronics.
My servo drives can do 20 ms stops at 7.5 kW / 3 secs (300%) + whatever they dump (I suspect over 20 kW momentarily) but they are specifically built for that and I think they dump into the grid.
If you are going to switch fwd/reverse, fast, I would suggest some caution.
The spindle motor + hw has huge power and momentum.
I used to sell Haas machines.
The acceleration took about 30 kW to get to top speed, in 1-2 secs.
Cutting took mostly 3 kW or so.
I think that running a machine at speed, and reversing it electrically, fast, will blow the relays in a colourful way.
And probably all sorts of other stuff.
My servo spindle refit 2.5 kW has about 30 kW sustained power belts, and the mounts are over 50 kg in mass.
My WAG is that stops are over 20 kW in peak power.