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bogstandard:
Many thanks gents for your replies, but in all honesty, sympathy is not what we are after, even though the well wishes are most welcome.

We have tried to be very positive, especially Mal, who would not take failure as an option. She even lays into people as soon as they try to be negative, including myself when I had to broach difficult topics and decisions.

I wanted to make it known for two reasons, the first was to publicly thank the people with whom I have been in contact, and who have given us great support thru our very dark times, and it will also explain why my posting has been a little haphazard over the last few months. I was using what time I could get in the shop as a stress relief for myself, and it worked great, even if it was only for half an hour.

Until you find yourself in a situation like this (and I wouldn't wish it on anyone) you don't realise that having a release, even for a short time, really helps in coping with stressful times.

John S.

Thanks for the heads up.

I actually 'fixed' the phone problem the yesterday, I can get as many free to landline calls, whenever we need them, for a small monthly fee.

It was one of those jobs that needed sorting, but I had other things to worry about at the time.

John

Darren:
John,

Just like to add to our private conversation yesterday that I told Helen the good news as she has been asking of Mal & yourself frequently. I think it's one of those inner fears that effects us all these days.
The spark in your voice as we spoke was almost overwhelming, even for me who tends to have a wall having suffered for many years with my own ailments no doubt.

It was wonderful to receive the news and please give my regards to Mal who supprised me the other weekend. She sure is a rock and good on her :thumbup:

andyf:
John, having been through it with my Chris, I know what you have been going through. Mal could not have received better treatment anywhere else than Christies. Chris was treated there, and considering that it deals only with cancer cases, the atmosphere is amazingly optimistic, due to the esprit de corps of the staff. As you say, people are treated as people, not just as cases. Chris's mother is receiving treatment there now, and the fact that her life expectancy cannot be measured in decades - she was 91 last Sunday, though you wouldn't guess it - has not made one iota of difference to the care she is receiving.

Don't know if there are any Joseph Holts pubs in Crewe, but if there are, bear in mind that a portion of their profits goes to the Christie, so fundraising can be combined with fun.

I hope things go better for both of you from now on.

Andy

spuddevans:

--- Quote from: bogstandard on November 18, 2009, 05:15:21 AM ---Until you find yourself in a situation like this (and I wouldn't wish it on anyone) you don't realise that having a release, even for a short time, really helps in coping with stressful times.

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Now aint that the truth. Not that I am in anything like the situation that you and Mal are dealing with, nor can I fully imagine what it is like, but I do agree with the truth of the above statement. Looking after a member of your family who is seriously ill can really take a toll on the carer, and you do need to take even just a little time to "recharge" so that you can carry on giving the level of care needed.

I join with everyone else here in wishing that everything will go as well as it possibly can for both Mal and yourself.

--- Quote from: bogstandard on November 18, 2009, 05:15:21 AM --- it will also explain why my posting has been a little haphazard over the last few months. ........

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I really dont think that you, or anyone else for that matter, needs to explain themselves with regard to their posting habits. Just take whatever time you need to care for your family, that is far more important than keeping up the post-rate on a forum.

Tim

Bernd:
John,

I had a feeling something wasn't quite right. I had put 2 and 2 together after a while and came up with my own conclusion.

I figured in time you would tell all of us. I'm glad to hear that Mal will be OK. Not easy what you have gone through in the last few months. I'm sure it will still be ups and owns on the journey to come. Just let it be known that we are here to support you and Mal.

Give Mal a big "smootch" from all of us and give her our best. Tell her that we are all pulling for her to get better. And you, you old goat hang in there.

Best regards,
Bernd

P.S. I was never one for writing such things and find it hard to express myself in situtations like this.

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